What a whirlwind, the holidays always seem to send the year into warp speed where we see countdowns posted on how many days until Christmas and New Years. That countdown combined with your wedding countdown can feel like a weight on your shoulders but with gentle reminders I think we can keep you off that anxiety ledge! First, try to reflect on how you’ve grown from where you were at this very time last year and give yourself some grace to appreciate those milestones both as an individual and as a couple!
From new chapters of graduating college, or accepting a promotion at work or maybe even just the growth in learning more about yourself through life experience in general allowed you to become more well rounded in from 2018 to 2019. Here we are about to turn the page into 2020, that growth will carry forward into the new year. The ability to recognize strengths and weaknesses in ourselves translates into being a better partner, better friend, sibling/daughter/parent or just a good human!
As wedding planners we are with our couples through not only the planning process but also alongside for what life throws at you during that time. For my couples, I can offer my perspective of having been married for over 9 years because I am well aware of what it feels like when learning how to navigate challenges as a couple. The stress of choosing napkin colors or your signature cocktail menu is much different then being in limbo during escrow on a home, dealing with family dynamics, managing finances or even becoming new parents. This isn’t to minimize the stress or anxiety that a couple may feel during their engagement but instead we encourage couples to focus on communication and finding ways to stay present in the experiences.
Practicing good self-care, limiting screen time when you are with your partner and giving yourselves permission to take breaks from wedding planning when you need it can help you stay present. Reach out to your planner when you feel like you want to hit pause over a long weekend, or maybe you need a little extra help on the details. That’s what your planning team is here for!
With 2020 so close, we feel an excitement and welcome the growth that it brings for our team. We too can reflect on what changes we wanted to make in 2018 and how we dug deeper into our strengths and weaknesses during the course of 2019. If we didn’t look inward on how we can do better, we wouldn’t continually be able to improve the value for our clients who are trusting in our abilities for their celebration. So cheers to making these last few weeks of 2019 count and staying present for ourselves and those around us!
Happy Planning!
XOXO - Veronica